Marriage Advice from Celebrity CouplesOctober 29, 2016
Collaboration with Max Black
Private lives of rich and famous are extremely exposed, so we often hear about scandals, disputes, outrageous statements, and of course – rumors about new couples that emerged or the hottest news about luxurious celebrity weddings. Hollywood is filled with short term marriages and sometimes – love is put aside in favor of publicity. But what about those stars who tied the knot and have been married for years, even decades? There must be some secret to their success since they managed to resist the pressures of living in the public eye: it’s not that easy to protect your private love life from nosy paparazzi and fans. You surely can learn a few things from them: here are the best pieces of marriage advices to treasure.
Respect and reciprocity are crucial
In order to nurture a healthy relationship, you have to fully respect your spouse and accept them without holding back. As the star of Grey’s Anatomy Patrick Dempsey says – you mustn’t strive to change the other person according to your own desires. Kim Kardashian and Kanye West had to put an effort to accepting each other: as Kanye said – his wife lets him say a lot of things most wives wouldn’t allow; but also – Kanye tolerates Kim’s daring photos and open sexuality on social media.
Spicing your sex life
The most common thing that happens when you’re married for a long time is monotony. The spark gets lost and you’re left with a person you care about, although you feel no passion. Many couples reach a boredom rot, while their sex life becomes a routine or they stop having sex completely. The boring bedroom syndrome is real, but don’t wave your white flag just yet. Learn a thing of two from Beyonce and Jay Z: although they’ve been through some rocky paths, they’ve been married for over eight years now. A couple of years ago, they were caught buying sex toys in the amount of $6000! Victoria and David Beckham are also known for playing in the bedroom, while Hugh Jackman decided to buy sex toys in Australia to experiment a bit while on vacation: what’s stopping you from spicing things up? There’s no shame in having a bit fun!
Showing affection every day
In long-term relationships, people get used to having that special someone by their side, but they forget to show just how important that person is to them. You need to show affection on a daily basis. When asked about her secret to a lasting marriage, Julia Roberts simply replied: “Probably kissing.” Another great tip comes from the musician Luke Bryan: he said he gives his wife foot massages before bed – how cute! Take another piece of advice from Tony Goldwyn, too: he loves making Sunday waffles for his wife and to prepare her yummy meals. You have to try a bit to make it work, right?
Open communication is everything
So many married couples fall into a rut, so eventually – they stop having meaningful conversations. In the worst case scenario, spouses stop communicating completely, so they may resent each other, but don’t talk it out. This can lead to worse problems, such as cheating or even divorce. However, celebrity couples such as Emily Blunt and John Krasinski underlined the importance of talking to each other and being forever generous. Neil Patrick Harris and his other half, David Burtka, are on the same page with one thing: you cannot have a great marriage if you stay quiet. Conflicts can be healthy as they push your relationship forward.
Make a decision to be there – in sickness and in health
American singer Faith Hill made a really great point about the essence of a strong marriage. There are no secrets to it. You simply have to decide every day you’re going to be there for the person you love, through ups and downs, and try to laugh as much as you can, while cherishing each other.
Cherish and respect your partner. The bottom line is this: love evolves and you have to put a bit of effort to it.